Why Am I So Paranoid About Choosing A College? I Am Scared I Will End Up Hating The College I Choose To Go To?
I don’t have any friends but I did before but I haven’t experienced the life people my age typically experience. In hs all I did was go home. I was super shy. I go to a jr college which is commuter so it’s tough making friends bec. people went to hs locally so they have their friends nearby so their particularly open to make friends. I have hanged out with a few but not anymore. I am generalizing. People have different priorities and most just want to come to class. The comaraderie isn’t high. In hs it’s different people are always talking about hanging out. Now I can’t even decide my major. THat’s the reason that is preventing me in choosing the college. I am WORRIED and I would say paranoid that i’m not going to make friends if I attend one college and i’m not going to be happy if I don’t make the right choice for me. I feel this decision is going to be very crucial. I have become OBSESSED about it!!! If I pick one school I am scared I will not make friends and/or not like the classes and i’m already 23 so I need to choose my major now.
January 29th, 2010 at 11:23 pm
I know exactly what you mean. I used to obsess about what I wanted to go to college for and if the school I was in was the right one. I am 24, and I have gone to 4 different schools, including 2 community colleges. I’ve dropped out of all of them, except for the community college I go to now. If you don’t know what you want to do, rushing yourself into college isn’t going to help. I was super shy too and didn’t have any friends after high school. The two private colleges I went to I had no problem making friends, because I chose to live in the dorms and I had the same people in all my classes. I’m pretty shy too, so I’m sure when you go to school you’ll have no problem as long as your friendly and don’t keep yourself locked up in your room.
I think you need to take time off and figure out who you are. I know that’s why I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I decided that moving out on my own, getting a job in the city, and learning to take care of myself in a new environment would help, and it did. It was scary, but I know what I want now and I have made friends that believe in me and have introduced me to lots of great experiences.
January 30th, 2010 at 4:29 am
i think you are worried about other stuff really
all colleges are going to have people you like and dislike, people who you get one with and don’t get on with
its not like you’ll go to one and there will be nobody you make friends with
January 30th, 2010 at 4:30 am
Get some counseling at your college. They can help.