Sister, chose College in California, wants to come back to NJ?
Apr.07, 2010 in
College Selection
My sister decided on a College in California. My Parents put up the money to fly out to check out the school, spent money to to drive across country to get her car there, and spent a week while she got settled in, although settling in wasn’t what happen at all. Even before my Parent returned home she was already feeling the pressure of being on her own and take up this big responsibility. The thing that bothers us the most is she hasn’t even gave it a try, classes just started and already she is lossing it. I feel that we have all gave her very good incourage words and advice and offered constant support through any communication medium, what more can be said to tell her that coming home will only make her wonder “What IF?”
April 7th, 2010 at 4:44 am
My son took a year in Spain and after a few days of disaster, real disaster, was ready to come home. My question was “Do you want to be that person who had this great opportunity and threw it away because of some temporary difficulty?” I tried hard not to be supportive of his coming home. He stayed, had a great time, eventually, after many hard times, and is a phenomenal young man now, much of it due to his adversity. He has pride in being able to solve problems for himself, and not run home to Mom and Dad at the first sign of serious difficulty. And the difficulty was serious.
From my daughter, who had a year in Africa in High School – talk about hard. . . “Isn’t it tragic when inconvenient things happen to privileged people?” This is win or lose for her and is life changing.