my tutor at college doesnt treat me like a mature student/make my own decisions at college and im 18?
Question by Daire Fitter: my tutor at college doesnt treat me like a mature student/make my own decisions at college and im 18?
ok so im 18 years old, in college, and quite sensible/mature for my age, i have two tutors at college, one of the tutors respects the fact that im a mature 18 year old college student, the other doesn’t. she doesnt let me make my own decisions in college either (and i know right from wrong/
what i do/dont need to do) but she still sometimes tries to take control of what i do in the college
day. for example: today at college it was cold but it was warming up as well, and we were going
out to do group work, so i went out with a shirt and jumper but no jacket. when we were out, i
wasnt that cold at all (as i said the weather is warming up round here) and she said “oh
you must be freezing go up to college and get your jacket” when i said “its not that cold
its actually warming up now” another tutor said (surprised) its warming up its freezing”
i still kept refusing to do it (for the reasons mentioned above) my tutor had arranged to
have a meeting with my dad that day, so she told him about it, as if too say that what
I did was wrong when it wasn’t — and there was another time when i started at college
that she told me off for not filing my work correctly even though she hadnt told me what
order to put it in. she does stuff like this to the other students as well, today she said
she would give another student a caution if he didnt stop asking her to file his work for
him (even though he finds it difficult).
does she have a right to be treating me/other students in my class like this?
Best answer:
Answer by Alexandria
Your teacher may just be trying to look after you but, she also may have control issues. Do not disrespect her since she is in authority but, do let her know that you are an adult and that you can do those things yourself without her helping you.
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April 4th, 2011 at 10:00 am
To be honest, most freshmen need to be told what to do and how to do it. I’m not saying that her opinion about whether you should be cold or not is correct, because I think she should leave that alone, but for the most part, freshmen still don’t understand what college is about. I recently helped teach a class and lab that had a few small research projects going on – this was a freshmen class – and I can’t tell you how many times the instructor would say when a paper was due clearly during lecture, yet nobody took notes on that. Then when that day came, many didn’t remember it was due. Many sit around during class on their laptops and surf Facebook too.
So yes, I think that to a certain extent, your tutor and/or professors should be able to tell you what to do. And you said it yourself that she is not singling you out. She has probably had experiences just as I have had with first year students fresh out of highschool. So think about where she is coming from as well.
Edit: I’m sorry if I offended anyone. I was a freshman at one point too, but I am also a teaching assistant to freshmen in college. It’s possible she just likes being high on power, which is wrong, so if you don’t like it fire her if you can. However I still stand by the fact that many students do need a lot of help when they first start college.
April 4th, 2011 at 10:29 am
Your tutor is crazy. Just fire her and get another one. Telling your dad that you didn’t obey her when she told you to get a coat is like something my middle school teachers did to me. Don’t bother putting up with her anymore. And don’t listen to people who say freshmen need someone to tell them what to do. I’m a seventeen-year-old freshman and I can turn my papers in on time without someone shoving reminders down my throat.