My 40 yrs old middle sister’s envy/jealousy is wrecking me. Whatever, I have or do she has to do as well just to proof she is as good as me. I love her and do not compete her or show off but she is obsessed with me. She has even flirted with my men and she act and speaks to my boys by highlighting my weaknesses in her manner.
If I tell her I am heading to Mt Everest, then I shouldn’t be surprise to see her standing there on the top of Mt. Everest already just t proof she can do it as well. I am not competing with her.
I brought her into this country for her better life and now she is just in mission to destroy me. I am tired of her. I wish she could find her own interest and profession. I said to her I want to be a teacher, then she said ‘ Oh, I am looking to teach as well’. I said, one day in a converstaion, I like to help old people, then she went to apply for a position in a care home. Again, I said now I am training to become a college tutor and she calls me and said, she wants to become a college tutor, now.
I am not imagining, it is happening, it is a harassment. I am tired and wish she love me but not bring these unhealthy competition. What shall I say without making her angry. If i say you are jealous, she will say the same thing.
When we were little I got everything first and got lots of attentions and she felt neglected but I said sorry to her and said I was a child, too and didn’t ask for it but it was given to me. I was beautiful and talented and dad and mum were proud of me.
Now, she is punishing me. I can’t get away from her as my tow sons want to keep in touch with her as my boys do not have any relatives around and their dad is not in touch with them. If I say, she is making me ill and want to stop talking to her, then my boys tells me I am a bad sister and jealious of her. Please Help, I am very stressed and ill.