I’m 22, And I Live With My Parents, Should I Move Out After I Finish College & Find A Real Job?
I really dont want to rent an apartment but I know that it is going to be hell living in chicago trying to find a house of my own. Currently I am a intern with the city of chicago looking for a real job and I just dont know if when I find that job should I move out or stay with my parents a few more years so that I can save money and everything and truly start the right way not struggling to get by and all. My parents have no issue with me staying there as long as I am doing something with my life not being a bum which I am totally doing (not being the bum), but my g/f told me that one I get a decent job I should get an apartment, which she has her own apartment and all but I know that she has much college debt and she just recently graduated and got a new job and she has no choice but to live on her own cuz her parents arent like mine, i do not even believe they have a home like my parents do. But I really do not know what to do and I know alot of you will say if you are over 18 you should be out of the house but I nor my parents have ever believed that. If you truly have a serious opinion please share it with me because I would truly be happy to hear it.
February 25th, 2010 at 11:08 pm
Learning to struggle early in life is a good thing. If you don’t have any experience on how to get by in tight situations, you will have it hard when you are married and have a family. Learn now so that later, if anything financially bad happens, you will have some experience in how to live meagerly.
February 26th, 2010 at 5:57 am
Sweetie. Just stay at home. I am 21 and want to move out cuz my aunt n gramz get on my last but what does it profit you if you are broke all the time. Tell your girl to calm down cuz she wouldent want a broke dude anyway! Good luck!
February 26th, 2010 at 6:35 am
As long as the parents are fine with it I say stay until you have enough savings to afford your own place IF your ready to move out then. I say stay the extra few years and build up your savings.
February 26th, 2010 at 11:07 am
Life is not without struggles and that cliched phrase “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger” holds true. If you wait until your bank account is large enough, your house is large enough, you’re old enough or you’ve been educated enough you will never move or do anything else for that matter. I realize your parents may say it’s fine but your girlfriend is right. You should experience making it on your own for awhile. When you go through some struggles it makes you appreciate the rewards of those struggles that much more. I’m not saying go without eating, utilities or necessities in order to move out but if it means you have to give up some of the “extras” for that independence it’s well worth it. Start out slow, rent a small apartment, nothing fancy just somewhere you feel safe. When I think of some of the places I lived before I bought my home I smile because I know where I have come from and it feels good to look back at my accomplishments and know that I did it. Set goals for yourself (realistic ones) and go for them. Don’t be afraid to take that step, it’s a natural progression. You’ll be fine.
February 26th, 2010 at 5:06 pm
If it’s beneficial for you to stay home and go to school do that. A lot of young adults don’t have the opportunity that you have. Appreciate the situation you’re in. I moved out when I was 19 and struggled on my own. I made it out alive. My sister went straight to a University after graduation. And because she’s got our full support she was able to attend school full time (she works off and on with her current job.. it’s mostly part time) it took her 4 years to get her BA’s. She know that she’s got it made and she appreciates every moment. As the saying goes.. if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. Also, there’s no harm in trying to make it on your own and moving back in with your folks.