I think I’m falling in love with my tutor, help?
Okay so I’ve gone back to college to take some A-levels, I’m twenty now so I’m older than most in my year. A while ago it dawned on me that I have a crush on one of my college tutors, the thing is I can’t get him out of my head and I’m scared that I’m falling in love with him.
I don’t really know what to do, I think maybe he might be interested in me, though I’m not 100% sure. If it was in any other setting this would be so easy, he’s only 28 so the age gap isn’t huge and he’s really great, but he’s my tutor.
I’m scared, because he can’t be this great guy that I’m falling in love with, he’s engaged or so I’ve heard, so he’s already in love and he’s found the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. So he can’t be this great that I’m falling in love with, because he isn’t available.
April 7th, 2010 at 10:43 pm
It would be inappropriate to date your tutor, just as it would be to date a teacher or TA.
If you honestly, objectively think that he is interested in you, then find a new tutor. Inform this guy that although you think he is a wonderful tutor, you have found a new tutor because you’d rather see him in a social, personal, non-professional way.
If you’re not sure if the feeling is mutual and suspect it might just be wishful thinking, then you need to either eliminate the feelings or find a new tutor.
April 7th, 2010 at 10:45 pm
Well Hun,you cant help with who you fall in love with. why are you afraid of falling in love with him? do you think it would be awkward between you two or something? well maybe for now you two should just get to know each other better outside of the college and if you really wanna be with him,take it slow become friends(that way it will be less awkward if that’s what your worried about) and then it will probably blossom into something more,if you think hes a great guy and you like him,go for it! you never know he may have the same feelings for you,just stay positive if you really think its right!
April 7th, 2010 at 11:31 pm
i think that it is common for two people who spend a lot of private time together, in any setting to begin to have feelings for one another. especially if there is a physical attraction. but i wouldn’t expect much to come of it. long term, its just going to hurt you I think.
If nothing else, tell him how you feel and ask how he feels, then find out what he thinks you two should do about it. he might be your soulmate, he might just want to get into your pants. you wont know until you talk to him. I say give it a shot, better to know for sure and be embarressed for 10 minutes, that lonely forever.