I Am 17 In A Few Days And I Want To Move Out To Live With My Boyfriend And His Family Is It Possible?
I don’t get on with my parents we always argue and we can never all be happy at the same time. My college work and everything has been effected by this and I have had to see my college tutor and talk things through. They don’t like my boyfriend who I have been going out with now for 8 months and they are taking privileges away from me like having late nights out and keeping me in a few nights a week and not letting me sleep at my boyfriends house.
Its my birthday soon and I want all of us to go out for a meal as a family mine and my boyfriends and my mam kicked off she doesn’t want anything to do with him but then she complains that she knows nothing about him and would like to know.
I have tried to move out before a couple of months ago when I was starting to break down I needed to get away for a few days and she ended up going her ends.
I just want to move out because we don’t get on when we are in the same house. I am not happy at home and I feel more at home at my boyfriends house.
I don’t know what to do. Help!
February 21st, 2010 at 1:12 am
A good person would tell you that you are not yet eighteen, that you are not a legal adult, that you should listen to your parents and make self-sacrifices to get along with them.
A good person, but not a right person would say that.
And I am not a good person.
Let me tell you from personal experience- I’m eighteen, nineteen in September. I’ve been down the road- toured it extensively, you might say. My recommendation? Go. Leave if you’re unhappy, go live with your boyfriend. You can take care of yourself. You are in college. You have (and if you don’t, you NEED TO GET) a job. Provide for yourself. And especially if it’s effecting your work.
“What if I’m wrong, and it doesn’t go the way I planned?” Well, crap happens. Then you’ll have to suck in some pride and move back in, or else find a more compatible living area, like with a friend instead of your boyfriend.
If they argue? Argue right back. You have to fight for yourself. What’s worth the prize is worth the fight, right? It might be hard for you… It was easy for me, cutting off my parents. But of course, I had been harboring that hate for a while. When push comes to shove, you’ll have to decide whether you can stand up for yourself or if you’ll submit to the will of your parents. You might have to just walk out. Sometimes the things we need to do for ourselves are the hardest.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck. You can e-mail me if you ever need help or have questions. Let me know how it goes. (=
February 21st, 2010 at 5:33 am
Stay home is number one. They may not like him now but may learn to love him later. have him come over a little more often so they don’t feel left out. Remeber they love you more than anything else in this world.
Bella, please, get a grip. Moving out? if you do things will never be the same.
Invite him into your familly more and let them get to know him K?
February 21st, 2010 at 6:52 am
17 is a great age to finish high school!
February 21st, 2010 at 11:41 am
I would say you should move out if its causing you extra stress, and yes its possible
February 21st, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Quit sleeping around and study. You parents are SO right, Listen to them!
February 21st, 2010 at 9:19 pm
well it sounds like you are a lot more mature then your age suggest, considering your a 16 year old college student…that adds alittle extra cred when you start talking about moving out at a fresh 17… it sounds like your parents arnt really a ongoing staple in your life….and that you have grown up a little too fast for whatever reason… your parents have alot of concern for you because they are not confident in yours or their ability to make choices… so this puts you in a ackward spot, where you just kinda shrug and roll your eyes…because you feel the frustration that anyone in your situation would feel…i would start making a choice and sticking by it….learn to make plans as facts….for the birthday party…tell your parents this (fact) im having a birthday party at this place (fact) my boyfriend is going to be there (fact) his family is going to be there aswell (fact) and if you would like to come and meet him along with his family you are more then welcome too… this is how a deal with most difficult people…and the majority of women XD…good luck