How do you deal with dating someone who feels you chose college over QT with them?
Question by chickfaithful: How do you deal with dating someone who feels you chose college over QT with them?
I have been seeing someone for a while, and I love him so much, but he says things to make me feel guilty about having classes 5days/wk, work 2days/wk, and tons of homework. He knew very well I would be this busy when he decided to be with me, and now that I’ve really got into the school year, he’s flippin’ out. He makes me feel bad for not having time to be intimate, and yet he returns my calls late(if at all), and forgets all about me once he gets with the boys. I let it slide a few times, and then told him my feelings were hurt, but he just flipped it around on me saying that “At least he called at all, I don’t even give him QT.” Is he right to be upset about my crazy schedule, when he knew ahead of time it’d be like this? What should I do? School is stressful enough, he’s supposed to be my shoulder to cry on, not the one making me cry. ADVICE PLEASE!
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Answer by westfield47130
It’s likely that 3 yrs from now…he will be a distant memory. Choosing your education over time with him is not just smart…it’s your future. And as I noted…he probably won’t be in your future. If he really cared, he would truly understand the importance of the time you spend in class and on assignments… Don’t give up your dream for any guy…EVER!
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March 15th, 2011 at 9:36 am
Listen. This guy that is giving you a hard time – DUMP HIM. NOW. Education is SO important. I wish I had been gifted with the chance to GO to school. Don’t let some stupid guy deflect you from your goals. I promise you – you will regret it when you get older. One of the things most people really regret when they are older is not getting the most education that they could get. Knowledge is power. Make the most of your school time and stop wasting your energy and power on some idiot who is not supporting you in your life. Really – do it now and do not look back. God – I hope you listen to me and don’t let him screw up your academic status and goals. He’s just a guy. There is always another one – even if it does not seem so at the time.
MOVE ON. (and good luck to you – you can do it.)
March 15th, 2011 at 9:40 am
Stick to your guns girl !. School comes first ! If he is “the one” he will stay by you and you guys will make it through this period of stress and change. If not, the relationship wasn’t strong enough to last the test of time. Watch out, when you get married someday life, chores, work, kids all take away from QT on a daily basis. Sound like he needs some time to grow up and do some maturing. Of course he knew you would be busy but until it personally effects their ability to have you at there beck and call they don’t get it. Take care of yourself first and when you have to spend with him do so. Try letting him know ahead of time when you will have free time and see if he trys to set something up ahead of time with you. Good luck and stay focused on school, it is so important.