Question by rat king: finding college students with similar interests?
im having major problems with college right now. im rather shy and nerdy and thats where the problems are coming from.

ive tried joining multiple clubs on campus to be more social but it hasnt worked out. i often feel very awkward and shy when i show up. the only one im currently involved with is a tutoring club where we tutor middle school students. i feel out of place there since all the other tutors all ‘click’ with each other but im the only really nerdy guy there. im only in it because i heard tutoring can really help one’s communication skils which are needed in the workforce.

my only ‘friends’ are mostly those in my classes, but theyre also nerdy and dont have social lives. i only really have 1 non-nerdy close friend
basically i would stay the nerd i am, but unfortunately attractive girls never go for guys as nerdy as me (the only ’smart’ guys they like are also TALL and goodlooking, unlike me)

i dont have many interests other than the subjects I’m studying, watching sports (even tho i’m not even close to a jock), and some random esoteric interests (x-files, certain animes, etc)

i dont know where to find my niche. i would try getting back into anime, but it chews up too much of my time. i would try the sci-fi club, but they like DnD and RPGs and stuff i’m not really into.

is it worth the time and effort to join new clubs to find my niche? i only have a few months til i graduate

Best answer:

Answer by William D
Social skills do not come easy for some people and my advice is to practice. Have you ever noticed how some people have trouble with math and they have to study or try hard? It is the same with social skills. You just have to try harder and force yourself to talk to people especially with girls. I am nerdy myself, and I started out just like you. However, I forced myself out of that shell by talking to people as much as possible. After a while it will seem less awkward and you will be more social.

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