Did I Make The Right Decision Choosing My College Over My Boyfriend?
I had been struggling with this decision for quite some time. I got into the school that my boyfriend got into as well as my first choice college. I couldn’t decide between going to his school or mine because we want to stay together. However my school is two hours upstate in Poughkeepsie NY while his is in North Miami FL. I know that academically my school is far better. I visited both and when it comes to the campus I prefer mine. My boyfriend just thinks I should do whats best for me even though I know deep down he really wants me to go with him. However I can’t help but feel really bad about having chosen mine. My mom doesn’t seem too excited about my choice either since mine is really expensive while the one in Miami has already given me two scholarships.
I just mailed the deposit today. Should I stick to my decision or should go to Miami and be with my boyfriend.
November 27th, 2009 at 6:47 am
If you can financially afford your first choice, stick with it.
November 27th, 2009 at 7:07 am
deep down you know the answer to that question. there will always be other relationships but your college degree will be there for life. Work hard, and YES you made the right decision
November 27th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
You made the right decision.
Which is more important: a boyfriend that may not be around for more than a year or the college where you will get your education?
Good luck!!
November 27th, 2009 at 2:16 pm
yes you did
November 27th, 2009 at 8:47 pm
I guess the most appropriate answer would be to say, “stick to your choice over your boyfriend”. But I do get how hard it is. I’m in the exact same situation. I think you just have to ask yourself: where will you have the best experience? One place might be the best academically, but you’ve got to live there for several years, can you? You meet a lot of new people, but do you want to leave old ones behind because of that? Visualise yourself at both places, with all their good points and bad points, and figure out which will give you the best years of your life. You’ll never enjoy your new life entirely if you have any regrets about your choice.
November 28th, 2009 at 2:46 am
no doubt yes
November 28th, 2009 at 5:19 am
Your education comes first, so stick to your decision. I’m sure you’re feeling torn emotionally, as to what way to go, but it sounds as though you’ve made the decision that is right for you. Being given two scholarships is fantastic, but you have to be happy wherever you go. You can not build your life around your boyfriend. If something happened & you two broke up, you’d kick yourself for not going with your gut feelings. Good luck!!!!
November 28th, 2009 at 8:31 am
Yes, I am assuming you are average college entrance age…so you are still young. Get an education if it was meant to be he will be there when you get done, if not….you still got your education. If you go with him and (let’s assume) you break up, then you will be at a school you don’t want to be at may have to transfer and may lose credits. WHile your in college focus on the purpose gtting that degree. Boyfriends come and go….or if you really want to stay together ask him to follow you…it is a two way street you know.
November 28th, 2009 at 11:12 am
I only needed the question, not your story. College over the boyfriend was the ONLY smart choice.
November 28th, 2009 at 11:58 am
There will always be time for boyfriend later.
You should focus on college now, and get back to him after you graduate.
COLLEGE first if you ever want to be successful.
November 28th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
YES
November 28th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
Yes. I know you probably are in complete and absolute love with your boyfriend right now, but chances are you are bound to have other boyfriends in the future. However, your education is very important, and you may not be able to change that after college.
November 28th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Where would you have more fun is the question? If u are going to the college in NY and cant even think about school because u are thinking about your bf then it’s a waste. If u like it there thats another story then u just stay. Where would u have more fun and learn at the same time?
November 29th, 2009 at 12:39 am
yes
November 29th, 2009 at 4:59 am
You definitely made the right choice.
I know some boy who is choosing UF over Columbia simply because his girlfriend is there… I would go on to call him completely stupid.
You definitely made the right choice. Who knows, maybe you’d go to the college your guy got into and then, the first week, you guys break up.
Always go for what is best for you.
November 29th, 2009 at 8:40 am
I think you should go to the school that you chose. You need to grow and experience new things and as it is it may be possible that you and your boyfriend are going to meet new people and possibly grow apart which is natural. I say stick to your choice. If your relationship with your boyfriend is meant to be then it will continue on otherwise you are still very young. You need to expand your horizons and when you get to college you are going to see it is a great experience. As for your mom not being happy with your decision, don’t worry about it. you want the best education and remember being ignorant is a lot more expensive than having a good education. Good luck on your studies.
November 29th, 2009 at 11:06 am
yes honey boyfriends will come and go but you made the right choice
November 29th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
you have to do whats best for you.If your relationship is srong. Distance is only a small problem..If plan on getting married soon the distance will make it complicated
November 29th, 2009 at 6:27 pm
Here’s the thing about boyfriends vs college. I moved out to the west coast of Canada to be with my boyfriend. The day after I moved my mom called saying I was accepted to Mohawk College which was my dream school. So I had to choose my boyfriend or my education. I choose my boyfriend because he said we could make it work.
In a week I start college- at St. Lawrence College. I gave up my dream school for my boyfriend however now I’m going to have good grades and someone always there for me when times get tough or if I need someone to stay up with me all night studying for a final.
Plus I don’t have to do all the college partying because I have someone to say “Nope you need to study” which is good because I’m not a party person. etc etc etc.
Follow your heart. Besides all colleges teach you the stuff you need for your career.
Just really think about the relationship you’re in. Do you see yourself with him in 10 years? married with a family? Does he want to go to college? does he try to talk you into the school near him? Don’t be pressured into a choice.
I can’t answer your question, I’m sorry. But I hope my story helped a little.
Just follow your heart but remember to use your brain too
November 29th, 2009 at 10:34 pm
Does your college satisfy you at night? Is there like a fraternity there? If not, you chose wrong baby.
November 30th, 2009 at 12:51 am
if it was true love then u made a mistake.Wat would u rather have true love or intellegence.