Considering distance from boyfriend while choosing college?
My boyfriend and I have been best friends since seventh grade, and have been dating since around ninth. We’re both thinking about where to go to school next fall, after high school. I plan on majoring in general psychology, and then doing my master’s in educational psychology at Indiana University [to become a guidance counselor ultimately]. I am 100% about wanting to do my master’s at IU. However, there are several schools I’m considering for my bachelor’s. My boyfriend has expressed an interest in going to school close to me. He has a few schools that he would really like to go to. Several of the schools I’ve looked at would be within 3 to 4 hours of where he would be. Between these schools, I don’t have much of a preference. Would it be so wrong for me to choose one of them based on where he chooses? Because honestly, I’m not making the decision solely based on him, just partially. And as long as I go to IU for my master’s, my bachelor’s doesn’t matter as much…right?
March 29th, 2010 at 10:50 am
Do what you think is best for you.. don’t settle because you have no idea what college will do to your boyfriend.. people change in college because they develope more… not physically..mentally. Just remember to make a broad range of friends and don’t stay behind the wall of your boyfriend.
March 29th, 2010 at 10:52 am
In psychology, the graduate program is the most important thing. A solid undergrad program at any decent state school would be fine. If you feel that he is the person in your future, go for it. BUT make sure the school you attend is one that is perfectly fine with you and that it will be acceptable if you break up. People change so do not just choose the school based on him. Make sure it is good for you also.
March 29th, 2010 at 11:23 am
As you both get older and more mature you are going to find your interests diverging into different things. You are both going to become very different people than you are now and will probably drift apart anyway.
Don’t plan your college or your future life around your boyfriend. Unless you two were born attached at the hip or something you will be going in different directions as your interests lead you.
Don’t tie yourself down by making immature decisions now.
March 29th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
If distance was your only reason for choosing a place I would say that you are an idiot but it seems like you’ve actually done research and that you are making a logical decision. It is true that where you do your undergrad no longer matters, it’s all about grad school these days. Bachelor’s degrees are the new high school diplomas. If you feel like you would be comfortable at a school near your boyfriend and you feel like your relationship can actually go somewhere then I say okay. But if you feel that if things won’t work out and you’ll regret the school you choose then don’t do it. Nothing is ever certain when it comes to love and I have learned that even engagements don’t mean you’ll be together forever.